Showing posts with label unconditional love. Show all posts
Showing posts with label unconditional love. Show all posts

August 25, 2012

Women of God



The charity of good women is such that their “love makes no parade”; they are not glad “when others go wrong”; they are too busy serving to sit statusfully about, waiting to be offended. Like Mary, they ponder trustingly those puzzlements that disable others. God trusts women so much that He lets them bear and care for His spirit children.

In our modern kingdom, it is no accident that women were, through the Relief Society, assigned compassionate service. So often the service of women seems instinctive, while that of some men seems more labored. It is precisely because the daughters of Zion are so uncommon that the adversary will not leave them alone.

We salute you, sisters, for the joy that is yours as you rejoice in a baby’s first smile and as you listen with eager ear to a child’s first day at school which bespeaks a special selflessness. Women, more quickly than others, will understand the possible dangers when the word self is militantly placed before other words like fulfillment. You rock a sobbing child without wondering if today’s world is passing you by, because you know you hold tomorrow tightly in your arms.

So often our sisters comfort others when their own needs are greater than those being comforted. That quality is like the generosity of Jesus on the cross. Empathy during agony is a portion of divinity!

When the real history of mankind is fully disclosed, will it feature the echoes of gunfire or the shaping sound of lullabies? The great armistices made by military men or the peacemaking of women in homes and in neighborhoods? Will what happened in cradles and kitchens prove to be more controlling than what happened in congresses? When the surf of the centuries has made the great pyramids so much sand, the everlasting family will still be standing, because it is a celestial institution, formed outside telestial time. The women of God know this.
                    -Neal A. Maxwell

April 7, 2012

Jeremy



Jeremy was born with a twisted body and a slow mind.

At the age of 12 he was still in second grade, seemingly unable to learn. His teacher, Doris Miller, often became exasperated with him. He would squirm in his seat, drool, and make grunting noises. At other times, he spoke clearly and distinctly, as if a spot of light had penetrated the darkness of his brain. Most of the time, however, Jeremy just irritated his teacher.

One day she called his parents and asked them to come in for a consultation. As the Forresters entered the empty classroom, Doris said to them, "Jeremy really belongs in a special school. It isn't fair to him to be with younger children who don't have learning problems. Why, there is a five year gap between his age and that of the other students."

Mrs. Forrester cried softly into a tissue, while her husband spoke. "Miss Miller," he said, "there is no school of that kind nearby. It would be a terrible shock for Jeremy if we had to take him out of this school. We know he really likes it here."

Doris sat for a long time after they had left, staring at the snow outside the window. Its coldness seemed to seep into her soul. She wanted to sympathize with the Forresters. After all, their only child had a terminal illness. But it wasn't fair to keep him in her class. She had 18 other youngsters to teach, and Jeremy was a distraction. Furthermore, he would never learn to read and write. Why waste any more time trying?

As she pondered the situation, guilt washed over her. Here I am complaining when my problems are nothing compared to that poor family, she thought. Lord, please help me to be more patient with Jeremy.

From that day on, she tried hard to ignore Jeremy's noises and his blank stares. Then one day, he limped to her desk, dragging his bad leg behind him.

"I love you, Miss Miller," he exclaimed, loud enough for the whole class to hear. The other students snickered, and Doris' face turned red. She stammered ... "Wh-why that's very nice, Jeremy. N-now please take your seat."

Spring came, and the children talked excitedly about the coming of Easter. Doris told them the story of Jesus, and then to emphasize the idea of new life springing forth, she gave each of the children a large plastic egg. "Now," she said to them, "I want you to take this home and bring it back tomorrow with something inside that shows new life. Do you understand?"

"Yes, Miss Miller," the children responded enthusiastically ... all except for Jeremy. He listened intently; his eyes never left her face. He did not even make his usual noises. Had he understood what she had said about Jesus' death and resurrection? Did he understand the assignment? Perhaps she should call his parents and explain the project to them.

That evening, Doris' kitchen sink stopped up. She called the landlord and waited an hour for him to come by and unclog it. After that, she still had to shop for groceries, iron a blouse, and prepare a vocabulary test for the next day. She completely forgot about phoning Jeremy's parents.

The next morning, 19 children came to school, laughing and talking as they placed their eggs in the large wicker basket on Miss Miller's desk. After they completed their math lesson, it was time to open the eggs. In the first egg, Doris found a flower.

"Oh yes, a flower is certainly a sign of new life," she said.
"When plants peek through the ground, we know that spring is here."

A small girl in the first row waved her arm.
"That's my egg, Miss Miller," she called out.

The next egg contained a plastic butterfly which looked very real.Doris held it up. "We all know that a caterpillar changes and grows into a beautiful butterfly.Yes, that's that's new life, too."

Little Judy smiled proudly and said,
"Miss Miller, that one is mine."

Next, Doris found a rock with moss on it. She explained that moss, too, showed life.

Billy spoke up from the back of the classroom "My daddy
helped me," he beamed.

Then Doris opened the fourth egg.She gasped.The egg was empty. Surely it must be Jeremy's she thought, and of course, he did not understand her instructions. If only she had not forgotten to phone his parents. Because she did not want to embarrass him,she quietly set the egg aside and reached for another.Suddenly, Jeremy spoke up.

"Miss Miller, aren't you going to talk about my egg?"

Flustered, Doris replied, "But Jeremy, your egg is empty."

He looked into her eyes and said softly ...
"Yes, but Jesus' tomb was empty, too."

Time stopped.

When she could speak again, Doris asked him,"Do you know why the tomb was empty?"

"Oh, yes," Jeremy said, "Jesus was killed and put in there.Then His Father raised Him up."

The recess bell rang.
While the children excitedly ran out to the school yard ...Doris cried. The cold inside her melted completely away.

Three months later, Jeremy died.Those who paid their respects at the mortuary were surprised to see 19 eggs on top of his casket ... all of them empty.

February 16, 2012

It's all about Love


How many times in your life have you been disappointed about the choices of someone you care deeply about?

What have you done?

How often is our first reaction, criticism? Maybe you feel better momentarily but if you damage the relationship by your words and push that person away, is it really worth it?

I have tried the criticism thing a lot, feeling justified, especially if it is one of my children. I'm the "Mom" I have to teach them, right?

Anger doesn't teach, it hurts.

All those times, more than I'd like to admit, getting upset did very little except raise my blood pressure and multiply the negative emotions.

Defensiveness is the first to respond and when one feels attacked and backed in a corner the focus, is on escape. They are not in a frame of mind to produce sincere and lasting change.

We are all created in the image of God and within us lies unlimited potential. His love is constant and unconditional, always.

Loving a person despite their weaknesses and choices is a powerful way to initiate change, if and when they are ready. Maybe they never will, but if you want them to be a part of your life - it's all about love.

August 26, 2011

What I Like About You...



When you really think about it, your spouse is among the most important persons in your life. This is the person with whom you have loved, laughed, cried, agonized, triumphed, giggled, cuddled, fought, futurized and fantasized. This is the person with whom you made those marriage vows, to have and to hold, in sickness and in health, till death do us part! This is the person who has been exposed to your vulnerabilities…, my goodness, this is the very person who has seen you naked…and still loves you!
What I find bizarre is that too often, this is therefore the person you end up showing the most indifference and contempt!

If you believe marriage needs care and maintenance, and people respond well to being reinforced, then make a commitment to regularly do the following:
TELL YOUR SPOUSE WHAT YOU LIKE ABOUT HIM/HER.

Write your spouse a letter, a long one, and tell him/her everything you like about him/her. Everything that you like about his/her body, looks, behavior, values, skills, habits, contributions, etc. Be specific and talk about why. Then do the same thing on the phone, in person, in video, on a billboard……Something!

Reinforce your spouse, honor, cherish, appreciate, and love him/her. It's so necessary and it works. ….And, who knows, you might even get the same in return!

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